Perspective is everything.

The other day, I got a message from someone dear and close to me, “…when you have rough days and stressful ones, do you find writing it all down to get it out helps?”

I wanted to share my answer because it’s something I hold fundamental to myself even though I may not be able to practice it every second (just every other second). Perspective is everything.

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Hey there got your message, yeah writing helps as does keeping things in perspective helps alot. Shitty days happen to the best of us. What keeps me sane is realizing the current situation is temporary and that I have control over what happens next or how I handle the situation.

For example, I’ve seen people who live in somewhat poverty which they can’t control but are rather relatively happy in their situation because they choose to be. [some people can't be happy no matter what their situation]

Writing does help me as long as it gives me a thoughtful introspection into the situation and what can be done next. If I write to lament on the situation and think of it as hopeless it turns into more of
anguished poetry instead of an improvement.

Perspective is what saves me every time. Realizing the mood I’m in is only temporary (some days can be pretty grim). Realizing if what I’m currently striving for, if it doesn’t work out, it won’t be the end of all things. Also learning or trying to learn from my mistakes. I’ve repeated a few mistakes in my life, but I consider it evolution because I keep learning more and more. Some days I’m just not ready to fully understand something as much as I think I am. Does that make sense?

Having someone to talk with is great. Having someone who is understanding AND gives you a new perspective is huge. It’s not about just having a positive outlook on something. We can smile at a problem all we want and not have anything get better. It’s about changing what isn’t working and doing something different.